While lurking online, I came across an article titled: Dating Tips: 10 Signs He’s Not the One By YourTango.com (Updated: Jan 28, 2010). Here is the list from the online article, along with MY examples of observations thus far:
1. You have a list of things he needs to stop doing/saying/wearing if he wants your relationship to work.
The boy does whatever he wants, says whatever he wants, including teasing his wife about being short and such, and wears relaxing clothes meant for the park to work.
2. You don’t trust him.
The boy’s wife keeps calling him. He sometimes doesn’t answer her call. She doesn’t answer her call either when he needed a ride to and from the auto repair shop but instead took advantage of my free time. I wonder if that’s going to happen when their brats come along.
3. You avoid conflict at any cost.
They both fight. He bad-mouthed her for being an idiot. She threw a box of her junk from him over our HIGH fence after their fight while dating. What she has done to us is seriously ILLEGAL DUMPING!
4. When you’re sad, you don’t turn to him for comfort.
When she’s pissed, she goes to her mother. When they fight, he hides in our house.
5. One of you is struggling with an addiction.
He cannot help himself and spends exorbitant amounts of money and time on his hobbies.
6. You can’t really imagine him as the father of your children.
The girl already admitted to me about not making children with someone who spends for himself.
7. Your long-term, non-negotiable goals in life are incompatible.
The couple has been incompatible from the beginning.
8. You don’t respect each other.
He doesn’t mind divorcing her. She doesn’t mind leaving him alone at their home, which is really `OUR` second house, if you will.
9. You’re not attracted to him.
She’s only attracted at his looks. All people, young and old, straight and gay, loves his looks. She was better off with the height, looks and professional background of Dr. Kenny Chen than with a Filipino.
10. On paper he seems great, but you have this strange feeling…
I should not have signed their license. But since we all love happy endings, it’s done.